Be a friend to Have a Friend

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As I set my intentions for this year, beyond sparkling, letting my soul shine and investing in my talents, I am setting time aside to nurture relationships with friends, family and strangers. We are all connected and need each other to learn, grow and be cared for.

This week I have had two lovely gatherings at my house (one organized by my husband and one with my fabulous POW WOWs), I have had coffee with an old friend, plan to visit another friend recovering from surgery after work today and plan to meet two friends for lunch tomorrow. I am busy, as I am sure you are. I travel, I have a demanding job, a growing business, a book underway, creating special projects, a big family and lots of pets but I plan to make time for new and old friendships in 2015 and this decision feels great!

Relationships are at the core of a joyful life; make the effort and take the time. The only excuse we have is the one we make up. People first.

Be a friend to have a friend.

Love Your Friend, Erin

Wouldn’t It Be Great If…? Make 2015 Your Best Year Ever!

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Over the next couple of months I will be posting tips for making 2015 your best year ever! Here is the first step in prepping to make an awesome vision board for 2015. Spend time thinking about what you really want by using the statement:

Wouldn’t it be great if…?.

When we know what we want and we ask for what we want we are actually opening the doors to be able to contribute more to others.

Most people spend more time planning a vacation or choosing which car to buy than they do thinking about what they want for their life. The epidemic is that we are either thinking too small or not at all about our greatest hopes and dreams. It is scary to dream big and think bolder because we may risk failure, rejection from others or actually be afraid and feel unworthy of what we really want. The challenge and responsibility is to be courageous so you have more to contribute. The hope is that you don’t wake up one day and realize you never used your gifts to benefit others because you were afraid or to realize you just let life happen to you. You are meant to live abundantly and joyously.

You can start dreaming bigger by answering this question: Wouldn’t it be great if…? Answer it over and over again. As you become comfortable with it, start writing down your answers. Free your mind to think and open your heart to visualize outlandish dreams and impossibilities. At first, this tool may bring out feelings of guilt or greed. You may have thoughts like: we shouldn’t ask for more, we should be content with what we do have, I don’t deserve more, it will never happen, people will think I am crazy or every time I get my hopes up I am disappointed. These are common reactions. Move pass your old ways of thinking, you have new tools now to respond to opportunity in new ways. You are courageous. You may have been conditioned that we should be grateful and content with what we already have. Gratitude is essential but while you begin using this tool remember that when we know what we want and we ask for what we want we are opening the doors to be able to contribute more to others.

If we continue to think small and without vision, the same happens to those we love the most. When we step out and begin to live courageously we inevitably empower others to do the same. So forge through the negative feelings and practice using this tool. It is truly life changing. This is a powerful tool so make sure you are saying and writing the experiences, relationships, opportunities and things that you REALLY want. Include vacations, profession, contributions, how you spend your time, where you live, who you are with, how you feel, how you look, what your hobbies are.

Once you compile your responses turn them into present and achieved statements. Use presence not contingencies. This strategy plants a more powerful and healthy seed; you reap a great harvest when you plant the right seeds in healthy soil and nurture it over time. Your dreams are the seeds, your thoughts and actions are the nourishment and your harvest is living abundantly in every way.

Here are examples of how you move from answering the question to creating achieved statements:

Wouldn’t it be great if I wrote a bestselling book? Wouldn’t it be great if I lived on the beach? Wouldn’t it be great if I had lots of authentic friendships and fabulous dinner parties?

Here are the types of statements you want to include in your working vision (present tense and detailed):

I have a best-selling book that is helping millions of people. I have a beautiful beach house where I walk out my back door with my dogs and enjoy the fresh air and beautiful scenery. I host a monthly dinner party with fabulous friends who support me and I support them. Our friendships are authentic and our best interests are the driving force in everything we do.

Once you have your written statements it is a good idea to create a visual cue to help you envision and focus on what you really want. You can print photos, cut magazines, write words, or draw pictures of everything you want, big and small. I suggest you frame it or use special materials so it is a personal treasure. (I will share samples in the next blog for Making 2015 Your Best Year Ever!)

Never give up on what you really want to do. The person with the big dream is more powerful than the one with all the facts. ~Albert Einstein

Affirmation: I dream big and think bold; I am worthy and capable of having what I really want. I believe in the power of my thoughts and actions. I empower others through Living Inspired.

Action Statement: I will take time to think bolder and dream bigger about my life. I will expand my thoughts. I will think about and decide what I really want. I will create a written statement and/or a visual cue to remind myself of my greatest hopes and dreams.

Dream Big, Practice Courage.

Erin

P.S.: You may feel totally uncomfortable and even incapable of imagining beyond where you are. It is ok; you just need to practice new ways of thinking and keep your fear at bay. Just keep using the tools even if you don’t totally believe it. Before you know it, they will start to work and you will be flabbergasted by the results.

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This blog is an excerpt from my soon to be published book : Living Inspired: 6 Simple Choices to Brighten Up Your Life So You Can Light Up The World

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