Let’s Make Each Other Eggs

 

A couple of weeks ago I was doing a workshop at a Women’s Conference.  I listened to the keynote speaker, Hallie Lord, share her journey in the development of her faith.  She is an author and a speaker who hosts a podcast.

Hallie was sharing a story about the interview she did with a nun for her podcast.  The nun serves in a program in New York City for women who are in crisis and are pregnant.  They have a place they can stay and get on their feet while they have the baby.  As Hallie was interviewing the nun she asked her what do they do.  The nun replied, ‘we pour love into the situation.’

As Hallie described her conversation she asked how they ‘poured love into the situation’?  The nun responded that when the women arrive, regardless of the situation or the time of day, they don’t try to fix anything, they don’t try to make a big plan, and they don’t escort them to their rooms.  What they do to ‘pour love into the situation’ is they make eggs, sit, listen and get to know each other.  My guess is they probably sit and are still too.

What if we all just decided to ‘pour love into the situation’ and make some eggs for each other?

No judging.

No fixing.

No planning.

Love and eggs.

More listening.

More getting to know one another.

Let’s slow down and make some eggs.

Pouring love, Erin

Inspirational Speaker and Author

www.erinramsey.com

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Passing Time

 

images-4On a recent flight, I watched a movie called Mr. Church (2016) starring Eddie Murphy based on a true story of friendship.  The reviews are mixed but I enjoyed it.

At one point in the movie one of main characters talks about Mr. Church…his life was how he passed time in between serving others.  He cooked, painted, gardened and played the piano.  I don’t have this citation exact but this isn’t really about the movie; it is about asking ourselves how we are passing time.

Are we working too much?  Have we forgotten how to pass time with beauty and grace?

Are we rushing, waiting for the next vacation or the unlikely windfall of money?

Are we worried and stressed about things we have no control over?

Can we learn to be present; enjoying activities and contributions in new ways?

Are we living in the moment or looking for continual distraction in social media, trash television, and the news?

This movie prompted me to really reflect on a few things in my own life:

How am I serving others on a daily basis?

How do I pass time?

Are there new ways I can enjoy in the between time more?  What interests have I not discovered?  What contributions have I not made?

I hope you will ask the same questions of yourself.  After all, our legacy will be our service and how we used the time in between.

Inspired, Erin

Inspirational Speaker and Author

www.erinramsey.com

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Everything to Gain

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For those of you who have attended my workshops or who know me; know that I am firm believer in writing out your ‘picture perfect’ life and making a visual representation of your vision.  I use a vision board.  I have been making one a year for about the last six years.  My family started making them, too. We all started thinking bigger and being more open to possibilities.

Yesterday, my husband was cleaning out his closet as we prepare to move to the country to start a lavender farm.  He found his first vision board he made about five years ago.  He texted me a picture and noted that he had completely forgotten that he had a lathe on it, let alone this particular one.  He now has that lathe since starting his cue making business over the summer.  We were thrilled to see the Universe conspiring in his favor in such a tangible way.  While it is only a material possession it is a manifestation of seeds he planted years ago and forgot about.

You can make anything you want out of this but we choose gratitude and excitement.  We are planting seeds of abundance and joy and celebrating when they bloom.

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by setting a big vision for your life.

Focus on what you want.  Focus on how you can serve.   Be a light shining bright.

Go make a vison board to start 2017 with excitement and possibility.

Go big.

If you want some help creating your vision my book and workbook have lots of Tools to help you.

Erin

Inspirational Speaker and Author

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Don’t Get Paralyzed

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It is ok to be scared. I keep reminding myself this as my family and I embark on a new way of life. We have made big decisions about selling our home, starting a lavender farm, commuting to airports and my husband’s work.

One minute I am so excited I can hardly wait and the next minute I am petrified and panicked! This is all part of the process of practicing courage.

If you want something different you have to do something different. If you want to pursue your greatest dreams and biggest contributions you need to BUST THROUGH THE FEAR BARRIER.

I think where people get confused and paralyzed is when the fear rises strong and then we back down. When the fear rises strong is the time to keep going with courage!

When you see people who inspire you; who are living boldly and making their greatest contributions don’t forget that that they were probably scared but acted anyway.  Don’t get paralyzed.

Go towards what you want, Erin

Inspirational Speaker and Author
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Two Kinds of Magic

halloween2I have read several articles recently that distinguish between happiness and meaning.  The overall conclusion is that when we focus on meaning, purpose and contribution we will be happier.  When we only focus on our own happiness is when we fall down the rabbit hole of never ending want and take. This conclusion can be applied to all of the ill wills of the world; unhealthy relationships, unhappy people, war, politics and even poor health.

One of the Living Inspired Choices in my book, Be Amazing Tools for Living Inspired, is to Embrace Self Consideration.  This may seem contradictory to the notion of giving and purpose but in fact I think it is where we get confused.  Many of us begin to think that we need to be selfless, putting our wants and desires on the back burner of our life.  The truth is when we consider of ourselves we are able to to give more and put energy toward our contributions.  If we are living a life of meaning and purpose it doesn’t mean, we shouldn’t or can’t consider ourselves.  We need to fill up so we have more to give.

My granddaughter is two.  Yesterday was Halloween.

When she set out to go trick or treating with her mom, dad and baby sister it was an adventure. My son said she was slow going at the first few houses but once she realized that she could knock and get candy she was all in.  She walked several more blocks than we ever thought she would. My daughter in law said my granddaughter always only took one piece of candy; never taking more than her share but freely and lightheartedly filling up her bag.

She experienced the magic: knock and receive.halloween4

When she returned from her big adventure she started helping me pass out candy.  She would take one piece put it in the bag of a trick or treater, say a few indistinguishable words, probably something like ‘trick or treat’, ‘Happy Halloween’, ‘I have one for you’, ‘bye’… She worked hard and long running up to people on our walkway, back to me to get another piece while bopping around in her beautiful dress.  She seemed to be having more fun giving the candy than getting the candy. halloween2016

She experienced the best kind of magic: giving.

We need to practice knocking and receiving. Being willing to accept and understand we are worthy.  Not taking more than our share but not dismissing the joy of receiving. It takes courage to freely accept what is given to us.

We need to fill up our candy bags so we can freely fill others. Magic happens in win-wins.  Magic happens with enthusiasm and lightheartedness.  Giving and receiving doesn’t have to be hard; let it flow.

Let’s try to be more like a two-year-old on Halloween.  Let your light shine bright to lihalloween3ght the way for others!

With a full heart,

Erin

Inspirational Speaker and Author
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What Kind of Pot Are You Planted In?

For the first time in my entire life we are growing an avocado tree. My daughter got an avocado seed to sprout.

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Pretty exciting stuff considering most of my childhood there was a seed with toothpicks coming out of it soaking in water on the windowsill but to no avail, ever. I am not sure if it is actually hard to grow an avocado tree or not. What I do know is that we have one so beautiful that we named her ‘Beaut’, short for Beauty, even before she started to grow. We knew she was beautiful. We trusted that she was.

As my daughter and I planted the tiny sprout in a huge pot we were thrilled. We never even thought of the size of the pot being too big but after she was in it she looked miniature. My husband asked jokingly, “Do you think you could have gotten a bigger pot?” I smiled and said, “I know she looks funny but I want to make sure she has plenty of room to grow. We are setting her up for success!”

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Sure enough, in just four months Beaut is filling out and growing fast. We know it could take up to five years for her to produce an avocado. No problem. She has plenty of room to secure her roots and blossom to her fullest.

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What about you? Do you have room for roots with room to grow?

What does your pot look like?

Is it cramping your style?

It makes me think of when I buy petunias and mums. When I take them out of their store containers to plant I always feel sad that their roots are all wrapped around and tangled and stifled. Then I get excited that I am giving them new and more opportunity to bloom to their fullest. They need room and so do we.

Think about where you are planted. Do the people in your life believe in you and create space for your growth? Or are you all tangled up?

I know one day I will need to replant Beaut. She’ll be ready for bigger and better things. This will be just fine by me. For now, I know she has room to grow in her pot. I tell her how beautiful she is and how strong she is.

Make sure your pot is a good fit. It is the only way to grow.

With a blossoming heart and full life, Erin

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The UN-TEDx Talk

The TEDx Talk that wasn’t ….

I auditioned for the local version of a TED Talk; it was one of the scariest things I have done in a while. I am accustomed to speaking for people but not usually waiting for acceptance. It was definitely a new and interesting dynamic. I didn’t make it but I did it; so I am proud of myself. Or I should actually say ‘my idea didn’t make it’ because I don’t think it was about me; just the idea and relevancy for our community. Nevertheless, I hope you will take me up on my idea. This idea, along with lots of other ideas, to help us live joyfully will be in my book coming this fall: Be Amazing: Tools for Living Inspired.

The proposed TEDx Talk:

Break the Bad News Trance

We need to stop letting other people’s hardships become our entertainment. The news should be to inform us and to provide opportunity for us to make contributions through actions and thoughts. One of the best and most phenomenal parts of being human is that we get to make choices. Sometimes we take this ability for granted.   I did. I was living in a trance; a bad news trance along with millions of others. It looks like this:

We wake up, make coffee, watch the morning news or read the newspaper. We go to work, listen to the news or read our social media newsfeeds. We get to work and people start mentioning what they saw or read on the news. We say things like, “isn’t this just terrible” or “the world is in bad shape”. We go about our day, get home put on the evening news, make dinner, hang out, watch a little tv, maybe read a little, go to an event, or visit then we put on the late news, and then go to bed. We wake up, and repeat, day after day after day.

Then we wonder why we have anxiety and aren’t happy. Dr. Graham Davey of the University of Sussex researches the impact of negative news on people. It is no surprise that he has found that watching negative news makes us sadder and more anxious. The surprising finding is that when we watch the news our personal concerns, matters not even covered in the news, become exacerbated. He refers to this as the cascading effect of the news. We aren’t only more anxious about the world but our own lives too.

No one wins.

I wonder how many beautiful moments we missed or didn’t talk about.   I wonder how many ideas we didn’t generate because we were distracted.  I wonder how much energy has been wasted on the bad instead of the good. I mostly wonder what our world would look like if we broke out of the bad news trance. I am not saying we shouldn’t watch the news; I am saying that we should make sure we are awake and cognizant of what we are letting into our minds.

I have been working for 25 years in the public sector; I often get asked how we can make change. My answer has always been and will always be: one person at a time. You can make choices for yourself personally that can collectively impact the way we live. We can break the bad news trance and we can become a good news community, a good news country, a good news world one person at a time.

With five simple steps we can begin to wake up.

  1. Create No Bad News Zones: It is imperative to begin and end the day with intentionality. Focus your morning on your intentions and focus your night time on being grateful. Do not watch the news first thing in the morning or the last thing before you go to sleep.
  2. Spread Good News: commit to talking about at least one good thing a day. I hope it is more but at least one, please!
  3. Be Selective: carefully select your sources for news and set up your life where you can access it intentionally rather than blatantly being exposed to it; for example turn off your tv and clean up your social media. 
  4. Help Others: when people are suffering send love and light to them or do more if you can but don’t just sit there and watch it over and over again and do nothing.
  5. Drive the Market: we live in a capitalistic society; consumers drive the market; stop consuming sensationalized news.

Let’s stop making other people’s hardships our entertainment. Let’s wake up together and break the bad news trance. Let’s become a good news world; one person at a time.

Focusing on the Good, Erin

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Be a friend to Have a Friend

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As I set my intentions for this year, beyond sparkling, letting my soul shine and investing in my talents, I am setting time aside to nurture relationships with friends, family and strangers. We are all connected and need each other to learn, grow and be cared for.

This week I have had two lovely gatherings at my house (one organized by my husband and one with my fabulous POW WOWs), I have had coffee with an old friend, plan to visit another friend recovering from surgery after work today and plan to meet two friends for lunch tomorrow. I am busy, as I am sure you are. I travel, I have a demanding job, a growing business, a book underway, creating special projects, a big family and lots of pets but I plan to make time for new and old friendships in 2015 and this decision feels great!

Relationships are at the core of a joyful life; make the effort and take the time. The only excuse we have is the one we make up. People first.

Be a friend to have a friend.

Love Your Friend, Erin

Everyday is a Special Occasion

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Simple Pleasure

I was in the DC area facilitating a three day training. I sat down to lunch with a colleague who packed her lunch. She nonchalantly opened her lunch box and very casually yet elegantly placed a linen napkin on her lap. I watched her, smiled and said, “Fabulous!” I loved the simple luxury of the napkin that connotes “I value myself”.

She told me that few months prior she was out to dinner and was handed a linen napkin. She sighed with enjoyment. She then thought to herself if this gives me such pleasure I should use the napkins I have.

We can make every day a special occasion starting with a lovely linen napkin.

Enjoy today, Erin

Wouldn’t It Be Great If…? Make 2015 Your Best Year Ever!

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Over the next couple of months I will be posting tips for making 2015 your best year ever! Here is the first step in prepping to make an awesome vision board for 2015. Spend time thinking about what you really want by using the statement:

Wouldn’t it be great if…?.

When we know what we want and we ask for what we want we are actually opening the doors to be able to contribute more to others.

Most people spend more time planning a vacation or choosing which car to buy than they do thinking about what they want for their life. The epidemic is that we are either thinking too small or not at all about our greatest hopes and dreams. It is scary to dream big and think bolder because we may risk failure, rejection from others or actually be afraid and feel unworthy of what we really want. The challenge and responsibility is to be courageous so you have more to contribute. The hope is that you don’t wake up one day and realize you never used your gifts to benefit others because you were afraid or to realize you just let life happen to you. You are meant to live abundantly and joyously.

You can start dreaming bigger by answering this question: Wouldn’t it be great if…? Answer it over and over again. As you become comfortable with it, start writing down your answers. Free your mind to think and open your heart to visualize outlandish dreams and impossibilities. At first, this tool may bring out feelings of guilt or greed. You may have thoughts like: we shouldn’t ask for more, we should be content with what we do have, I don’t deserve more, it will never happen, people will think I am crazy or every time I get my hopes up I am disappointed. These are common reactions. Move pass your old ways of thinking, you have new tools now to respond to opportunity in new ways. You are courageous. You may have been conditioned that we should be grateful and content with what we already have. Gratitude is essential but while you begin using this tool remember that when we know what we want and we ask for what we want we are opening the doors to be able to contribute more to others.

If we continue to think small and without vision, the same happens to those we love the most. When we step out and begin to live courageously we inevitably empower others to do the same. So forge through the negative feelings and practice using this tool. It is truly life changing. This is a powerful tool so make sure you are saying and writing the experiences, relationships, opportunities and things that you REALLY want. Include vacations, profession, contributions, how you spend your time, where you live, who you are with, how you feel, how you look, what your hobbies are.

Once you compile your responses turn them into present and achieved statements. Use presence not contingencies. This strategy plants a more powerful and healthy seed; you reap a great harvest when you plant the right seeds in healthy soil and nurture it over time. Your dreams are the seeds, your thoughts and actions are the nourishment and your harvest is living abundantly in every way.

Here are examples of how you move from answering the question to creating achieved statements:

Wouldn’t it be great if I wrote a bestselling book? Wouldn’t it be great if I lived on the beach? Wouldn’t it be great if I had lots of authentic friendships and fabulous dinner parties?

Here are the types of statements you want to include in your working vision (present tense and detailed):

I have a best-selling book that is helping millions of people. I have a beautiful beach house where I walk out my back door with my dogs and enjoy the fresh air and beautiful scenery. I host a monthly dinner party with fabulous friends who support me and I support them. Our friendships are authentic and our best interests are the driving force in everything we do.

Once you have your written statements it is a good idea to create a visual cue to help you envision and focus on what you really want. You can print photos, cut magazines, write words, or draw pictures of everything you want, big and small. I suggest you frame it or use special materials so it is a personal treasure. (I will share samples in the next blog for Making 2015 Your Best Year Ever!)

Never give up on what you really want to do. The person with the big dream is more powerful than the one with all the facts. ~Albert Einstein

Affirmation: I dream big and think bold; I am worthy and capable of having what I really want. I believe in the power of my thoughts and actions. I empower others through Living Inspired.

Action Statement: I will take time to think bolder and dream bigger about my life. I will expand my thoughts. I will think about and decide what I really want. I will create a written statement and/or a visual cue to remind myself of my greatest hopes and dreams.

Dream Big, Practice Courage.

Erin

P.S.: You may feel totally uncomfortable and even incapable of imagining beyond where you are. It is ok; you just need to practice new ways of thinking and keep your fear at bay. Just keep using the tools even if you don’t totally believe it. Before you know it, they will start to work and you will be flabbergasted by the results.

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This blog is an excerpt from my soon to be published book : Living Inspired: 6 Simple Choices to Brighten Up Your Life So You Can Light Up The World

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