Be Like Bob Ross

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It was the eve of a new month.  My sixteen-year old daughter and I were talking about our goals for the upcoming month.  I started sharing some new rituals I was going to introduce into my routine.  She was talking about her goals and the ideas she was generating to make them happen.  Then I said I want to be abundant and not obsessive about the things I want to do and try.

I asked her how she wanted to be in the upcoming month.

She paused and thought for a second and said, “I want to be like Bob Ross.”

I asked her how does being like Bob Ross look and feel.  She said let’s watch him.  So we watched one of his painting shows. We LOVED watching him. Our puppy, Honey, loved him too!  We were mesmerized, we smiled and laughed and even felt inspired!

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If you haven’t watched him or don’t know who he is go to Youtube and pull one up; you wont be sorry.

Here are a few of our takeaways from Bob Ross:

Happy Accidents 

Letting go of mistakes or unplanned events and reframing life’s curve balls as ‘happy accidents’ can make things better!  Making mistakes means you are trying, you are doing hard things, you are out of your comfort zone, you are trying. Don’t beat yourself up. It is just a happy accident.

Visual. Then off you go.

Visualizing is an awesome tool when working toward something whether it is a big dream, a small goal, an interaction or an experience.  Visual then set yourself free!  Lighten up.  Keep it simple.

Talk to the colors.

My personal favorite is he talks to the colors like they are his friends. He says, “I will be right back”, when he goes to use a different color.  It might sound over the top but for me it was a feeling of consideration, respect and reassurance.  We should do this for everything in our lives, even colors!

His cool afro, calming voice and easy going painting tips have much to offer.

Let’s be like Bob Ross: creative, relaxed, simple and goal directed, present and considerate.

Lighten up on yourself.

Happy Trees. Happy Life.

Off I go….Erin

PS: For all the teachers reading this, play Bob Ross in your art area for your children.  They will love him and learn some techniques.  He is like the Fred Rogers of painting!

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How much is YOUR time worth?

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Recently, two special young women in my life had experiences where they busted a move and didn’t wait around.  They valued their time.

One wanted to experience a high school dance.  She didn’t want a date.  She got decked out and looked stunning. She decided to meet a couple of friends there.  She drove herself.  She walked in alone. Now, I don’t know about you but I don’t think I would have done any of this while I was in high school.  I would have wanted/needed to go in with friends, be with a group and wished for a date.  Not this girl.  She is decisive even when not completely confident.

Once she entered the dance and met up with her friends she mingled, walked around and went to the bathroom when things got awkward.  Then she decided she wasn’t having fun.  People were doing things she isn’t interested in.  So while she tried for a bit to have fun, she realized she just wanted to experience the dance and get dressed up. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED. She didn’t need to wait around for it to turn fun. She wasn’t obligated to wait for it be over.

She knew what she wanted, she did it. She went home to her dog and her family.  The things she enjoys.

No wasting time on things that don’t matter and are not desired.

The second young woman, unfortunately, found herself in an unhealthy work environment.  After lots of hardship and inequity she gave her two-week notice.  She trained everyone within the first week.  On that Friday, she realized she had performed her responsibility.  She was also keenly aware the environment was dangerous to her mental health so she sent a professional email stating she would be leaving that day, for good.  She didn’t need to waste a week of her life in a bad situation.

No filling time to just fill time with blind obligation.

Realizing what to stop doing is a strong step in the direction of learning what to start doing.

 Stop waiting for the dance to be over.  Stop waiting for the notice to end.

How can these two examples of action be compared to everyday life?

Stop reading the mediocre novel that you don’t love just because you started it.

Go read something you love.  Read something you want to learn about and that challenges you or completely entertains you.

Is your time worth a mediocre novel?

Stop engaging in conversations that are negative, petty or ill willed just for the sake of trying to be polite.

Be alone over wasteful conversations.  Spend your time with people who are uplifting. Make time with your own thoughts. Get away from these interactions even if it is uncomfortable.

Is your time worth snarky people?

Stop waiting for the fair weather friend to become the friend you want and need.

Go spend time with and give energy to people who have your back.  If don’t have anyone like this in your life, make room for them to enter.

Is your time worth hurtful friendships?

Stop waiting for the big break, the lottery windfall of wealth or the perfect stroke of luck.

Go create a life of joy and excitement.

Is your time worth hoping it away?

Stop waiting for people to do what you want them to do.

Do more of what YOU want to do.

Is your time worth trying to control things you can’t?

Stop wearing the outfit you feel frumpy in because you spent money on it.

Put something on you love and that you feel good in.  Go donate that outfit.

No amount of money is worth frumpy.

Stop saving the glassware and china for special occasions.

Everyday is an occasion.

Stop waiting until you lose the weight, have enough money, find the right person or have the perfect job.

Your moment is now. The perfect time is the time you have now.

This all might sound easier said than done.  True; until you start practicing.  With a few tools you can begin making decisions about your time that will move you in the direction of what you want.  Closer to your dreams and knowing how much your time is worth.

Getting clarity of purpose and practicing courage can equip you to blaze your trail.  Yes, it does take effort and courage to discover and express your true wants.  Sometimes, it feels easier to wait around for whatever because we either don’t know what we want or it is too scary. It’s ok not to know or to be afraid.  It isn’t ok to do nothing about your fear and lack of knowledge.    Check out the tools in Inspired Work for Clarity of Purpose or the tools in Be Amazing for Practicing Courage.   

Purpose and Courage are the cornerstones of learning how to value your time.

Your time is priceless.  You don’t get it back, you can’t buy it and you can’t wish for it.

You can make the most it.  Value it.  Treasure it.

Start practicing.

We are intended to live joyously and abundantly.

Not waiting around, Erin

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Let’s Make Each Other Eggs

 

A couple of weeks ago I was doing a workshop at a Women’s Conference.  I listened to the keynote speaker, Hallie Lord, share her journey in the development of her faith.  She is an author and a speaker who hosts a podcast.

Hallie was sharing a story about the interview she did with a nun for her podcast.  The nun serves in a program in New York City for women who are in crisis and are pregnant.  They have a place they can stay and get on their feet while they have the baby.  As Hallie was interviewing the nun she asked her what do they do.  The nun replied, ‘we pour love into the situation.’

As Hallie described her conversation she asked how they ‘poured love into the situation’?  The nun responded that when the women arrive, regardless of the situation or the time of day, they don’t try to fix anything, they don’t try to make a big plan, and they don’t escort them to their rooms.  What they do to ‘pour love into the situation’ is they make eggs, sit, listen and get to know each other.  My guess is they probably sit and are still too.

What if we all just decided to ‘pour love into the situation’ and make some eggs for each other?

No judging.

No fixing.

No planning.

Love and eggs.

More listening.

More getting to know one another.

Let’s slow down and make some eggs.

Pouring love, Erin

Inspirational Speaker and Author

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Reset Your Joy Barometer

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What are we waiting for?

Several people have come into my life lately that have prompted me to pose this question once again.

In my book, Be Amazing: Tools for Living Inspired, and during my speaking engagements I tell the story of “Don’t Postpone Joy”. A story that illustrates the importance of living for today.

Today is your day.  Stop limiting the possibilities. Stop obsessing over stuff that doesn’t matter.  Stop waiting for the perfect time. Begin to treat yourself.  Start looking for joy and you will have more to give.

Here are few examples that have inspired me to reset my Joy Barometer:

  1. Free yourself up.

We had a few guests over, I was in conversation about how our drinking glasses were always breaking.  Our guest said she wishes her glasses would break so she could get new ones.  I asked why she needs to wait till they break.  There was no reason.  She wasn’t aiming toward an extravagant purchase outside of her budget.  She just wasn’t considering freeing herself up to get something new even if it wasn’t ‘needed’.  Sometimes it is a good idea to do something new even if isn’t required or needed.  Small actions, like buying new drinking glasses, can open your thoughts to the new possibilities.  Free yourself up, it is necessary.

  1. Treat yourself.

The same person used our restroom and asked about the soap in the bathroom because it was so nice.  I said it was just from a discount retail store and that I bought the soap because it was in glass bottles and smelled lovely.  She then talked about how she liked a certain soap and that she needs to go buy some when her current soap is out.  I suggested not to wait.  The soap she loved and enjoyed was just a dollar or two more.  Go buy the soap you enjoy.  A dollar or two won’t matter in the long run but how you treat yourself will.

  1. Enjoy and Move On.

Another visitor shared how she loves a certain type of jelly beans and she can’t help but eat all of her favorite color ones and then think about the other ones and end up eating all of them.  It seemed to be one of the main aspects of her day.  I hear stuff like this all of the time.  We get distracted by food, media, or other people and then our focus goes on things that don’t necessarily add joy to our lives. What about buying the jelly beans, enjoying them and then letting it go?  Better yet, how about finding ways to contribute that are so meaningful and full of passion that minor distractions don’t exist anymore.  Enjoy the jelly beans and move on.

  1. Take the trip.

So many people I talk with are waiting for retirement to see things they have dreamt a lifetime to see.  Seriously, why not now?  Save up.  Reprioritize. Increase your revenue.  Go see what you dream about seeing.  Meet more people of different ways of life. You will have more joy.  Don’t wait till your health is compromised or time is limited to explore and expand your perspective.

  1. Say it.

Recently, a beloved coach and educator passed away in a community that we used to live in.  He was a great guy.  He had an outstanding farewell and tribute, all of which was well deserved and quite beautiful. But I couldn’t help thinking if he was ever told the magnitude of his impact.  Maybe.  Maybe not.  Either way, his passing and the farewell reminded me to make sure people know their impact.  I am recommitted to telling people thank you, acknowledging their contributions and personal impact.  We don’t have to wait for someone to die unexpectedly to realize their impact.  Spread joy with appreciation.

  1. You are  worthy.

So many people are waiting to be the perfect weight before doing something they want.  Stop already.  Your weight shouldn’t determine your worthiness of experiences and joy.  It is like shooting yourself with the second arrow as Buddhist refer to.  There is no perfect time or perfect weight. You are worthy.  The time is now.

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Trust yourself.  Free yourself up. Reset your joy barometer. You know your budget, you know what is healthy and not healthy.

Let’s start believing in ourselves, treating ourselves, and trusting ourselves.  Let’s open ourselves to possibilities.  This approach won’t lead us to fiscal despair, gluttony or being out of control; it will free us up for some joy and flow of good energy.  It is the obsession, self imposed deprivation and limitations, and control that messes with our joy barometer.

Boundaries are good and helpful; what matters is what we do within those boundaries.  The goal should be to create as much joy, possibility, passion and love as possible.  The boundaries should help us not hinder us.

Make your Joy Barometer a daily priority.  Joy is a choice!

We are meant to live joyously and abundantly and sometimes we forget.  Get out of your own way.

Joyfully, Erin

Inspirational Author and Speaker

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Passing Time

 

images-4On a recent flight, I watched a movie called Mr. Church (2016) starring Eddie Murphy based on a true story of friendship.  The reviews are mixed but I enjoyed it.

At one point in the movie one of main characters talks about Mr. Church…his life was how he passed time in between serving others.  He cooked, painted, gardened and played the piano.  I don’t have this citation exact but this isn’t really about the movie; it is about asking ourselves how we are passing time.

Are we working too much?  Have we forgotten how to pass time with beauty and grace?

Are we rushing, waiting for the next vacation or the unlikely windfall of money?

Are we worried and stressed about things we have no control over?

Can we learn to be present; enjoying activities and contributions in new ways?

Are we living in the moment or looking for continual distraction in social media, trash television, and the news?

This movie prompted me to really reflect on a few things in my own life:

How am I serving others on a daily basis?

How do I pass time?

Are there new ways I can enjoy in the between time more?  What interests have I not discovered?  What contributions have I not made?

I hope you will ask the same questions of yourself.  After all, our legacy will be our service and how we used the time in between.

Inspired, Erin

Inspirational Speaker and Author

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Everything to Gain

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For those of you who have attended my workshops or who know me; know that I am firm believer in writing out your ‘picture perfect’ life and making a visual representation of your vision.  I use a vision board.  I have been making one a year for about the last six years.  My family started making them, too. We all started thinking bigger and being more open to possibilities.

Yesterday, my husband was cleaning out his closet as we prepare to move to the country to start a lavender farm.  He found his first vision board he made about five years ago.  He texted me a picture and noted that he had completely forgotten that he had a lathe on it, let alone this particular one.  He now has that lathe since starting his cue making business over the summer.  We were thrilled to see the Universe conspiring in his favor in such a tangible way.  While it is only a material possession it is a manifestation of seeds he planted years ago and forgot about.

You can make anything you want out of this but we choose gratitude and excitement.  We are planting seeds of abundance and joy and celebrating when they bloom.

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by setting a big vision for your life.

Focus on what you want.  Focus on how you can serve.   Be a light shining bright.

Go make a vison board to start 2017 with excitement and possibility.

Go big.

If you want some help creating your vision my book and workbook have lots of Tools to help you.

Erin

Inspirational Speaker and Author

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Don’t Get Paralyzed

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It is ok to be scared. I keep reminding myself this as my family and I embark on a new way of life. We have made big decisions about selling our home, starting a lavender farm, commuting to airports and my husband’s work.

One minute I am so excited I can hardly wait and the next minute I am petrified and panicked! This is all part of the process of practicing courage.

If you want something different you have to do something different. If you want to pursue your greatest dreams and biggest contributions you need to BUST THROUGH THE FEAR BARRIER.

I think where people get confused and paralyzed is when the fear rises strong and then we back down. When the fear rises strong is the time to keep going with courage!

When you see people who inspire you; who are living boldly and making their greatest contributions don’t forget that that they were probably scared but acted anyway.  Don’t get paralyzed.

Go towards what you want, Erin

Inspirational Speaker and Author
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Two Kinds of Magic

halloween2I have read several articles recently that distinguish between happiness and meaning.  The overall conclusion is that when we focus on meaning, purpose and contribution we will be happier.  When we only focus on our own happiness is when we fall down the rabbit hole of never ending want and take. This conclusion can be applied to all of the ill wills of the world; unhealthy relationships, unhappy people, war, politics and even poor health.

One of the Living Inspired Choices in my book, Be Amazing Tools for Living Inspired, is to Embrace Self Consideration.  This may seem contradictory to the notion of giving and purpose but in fact I think it is where we get confused.  Many of us begin to think that we need to be selfless, putting our wants and desires on the back burner of our life.  The truth is when we consider of ourselves we are able to to give more and put energy toward our contributions.  If we are living a life of meaning and purpose it doesn’t mean, we shouldn’t or can’t consider ourselves.  We need to fill up so we have more to give.

My granddaughter is two.  Yesterday was Halloween.

When she set out to go trick or treating with her mom, dad and baby sister it was an adventure. My son said she was slow going at the first few houses but once she realized that she could knock and get candy she was all in.  She walked several more blocks than we ever thought she would. My daughter in law said my granddaughter always only took one piece of candy; never taking more than her share but freely and lightheartedly filling up her bag.

She experienced the magic: knock and receive.halloween4

When she returned from her big adventure she started helping me pass out candy.  She would take one piece put it in the bag of a trick or treater, say a few indistinguishable words, probably something like ‘trick or treat’, ‘Happy Halloween’, ‘I have one for you’, ‘bye’… She worked hard and long running up to people on our walkway, back to me to get another piece while bopping around in her beautiful dress.  She seemed to be having more fun giving the candy than getting the candy. halloween2016

She experienced the best kind of magic: giving.

We need to practice knocking and receiving. Being willing to accept and understand we are worthy.  Not taking more than our share but not dismissing the joy of receiving. It takes courage to freely accept what is given to us.

We need to fill up our candy bags so we can freely fill others. Magic happens in win-wins.  Magic happens with enthusiasm and lightheartedness.  Giving and receiving doesn’t have to be hard; let it flow.

Let’s try to be more like a two-year-old on Halloween.  Let your light shine bright to lihalloween3ght the way for others!

With a full heart,

Erin

Inspirational Speaker and Author
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What Kind of Pot Are You Planted In?

For the first time in my entire life we are growing an avocado tree. My daughter got an avocado seed to sprout.

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Pretty exciting stuff considering most of my childhood there was a seed with toothpicks coming out of it soaking in water on the windowsill but to no avail, ever. I am not sure if it is actually hard to grow an avocado tree or not. What I do know is that we have one so beautiful that we named her ‘Beaut’, short for Beauty, even before she started to grow. We knew she was beautiful. We trusted that she was.

As my daughter and I planted the tiny sprout in a huge pot we were thrilled. We never even thought of the size of the pot being too big but after she was in it she looked miniature. My husband asked jokingly, “Do you think you could have gotten a bigger pot?” I smiled and said, “I know she looks funny but I want to make sure she has plenty of room to grow. We are setting her up for success!”

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Sure enough, in just four months Beaut is filling out and growing fast. We know it could take up to five years for her to produce an avocado. No problem. She has plenty of room to secure her roots and blossom to her fullest.

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What about you? Do you have room for roots with room to grow?

What does your pot look like?

Is it cramping your style?

It makes me think of when I buy petunias and mums. When I take them out of their store containers to plant I always feel sad that their roots are all wrapped around and tangled and stifled. Then I get excited that I am giving them new and more opportunity to bloom to their fullest. They need room and so do we.

Think about where you are planted. Do the people in your life believe in you and create space for your growth? Or are you all tangled up?

I know one day I will need to replant Beaut. She’ll be ready for bigger and better things. This will be just fine by me. For now, I know she has room to grow in her pot. I tell her how beautiful she is and how strong she is.

Make sure your pot is a good fit. It is the only way to grow.

With a blossoming heart and full life, Erin

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Be a friend to Have a Friend

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As I set my intentions for this year, beyond sparkling, letting my soul shine and investing in my talents, I am setting time aside to nurture relationships with friends, family and strangers. We are all connected and need each other to learn, grow and be cared for.

This week I have had two lovely gatherings at my house (one organized by my husband and one with my fabulous POW WOWs), I have had coffee with an old friend, plan to visit another friend recovering from surgery after work today and plan to meet two friends for lunch tomorrow. I am busy, as I am sure you are. I travel, I have a demanding job, a growing business, a book underway, creating special projects, a big family and lots of pets but I plan to make time for new and old friendships in 2015 and this decision feels great!

Relationships are at the core of a joyful life; make the effort and take the time. The only excuse we have is the one we make up. People first.

Be a friend to have a friend.

Love Your Friend, Erin