Let’s Make Each Other Eggs

 

A couple of weeks ago I was doing a workshop at a Women’s Conference.  I listened to the keynote speaker, Hallie Lord, share her journey in the development of her faith.  She is an author and a speaker who hosts a podcast.

Hallie was sharing a story about the interview she did with a nun for her podcast.  The nun serves in a program in New York City for women who are in crisis and are pregnant.  They have a place they can stay and get on their feet while they have the baby.  As Hallie was interviewing the nun she asked her what do they do.  The nun replied, ‘we pour love into the situation.’

As Hallie described her conversation she asked how they ‘poured love into the situation’?  The nun responded that when the women arrive, regardless of the situation or the time of day, they don’t try to fix anything, they don’t try to make a big plan, and they don’t escort them to their rooms.  What they do to ‘pour love into the situation’ is they make eggs, sit, listen and get to know each other.  My guess is they probably sit and are still too.

What if we all just decided to ‘pour love into the situation’ and make some eggs for each other?

No judging.

No fixing.

No planning.

Love and eggs.

More listening.

More getting to know one another.

Let’s slow down and make some eggs.

Pouring love, Erin

Inspirational Speaker and Author

www.erinramsey.com

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Reset Your Joy Barometer

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What are we waiting for?

Several people have come into my life lately that have prompted me to pose this question once again.

In my book, Be Amazing: Tools for Living Inspired, and during my speaking engagements I tell the story of “Don’t Postpone Joy”. A story that illustrates the importance of living for today.

Today is your day.  Stop limiting the possibilities. Stop obsessing over stuff that doesn’t matter.  Stop waiting for the perfect time. Begin to treat yourself.  Start looking for joy and you will have more to give.

Here are few examples that have inspired me to reset my Joy Barometer:

  1. Free yourself up.

We had a few guests over, I was in conversation about how our drinking glasses were always breaking.  Our guest said she wishes her glasses would break so she could get new ones.  I asked why she needs to wait till they break.  There was no reason.  She wasn’t aiming toward an extravagant purchase outside of her budget.  She just wasn’t considering freeing herself up to get something new even if it wasn’t ‘needed’.  Sometimes it is a good idea to do something new even if isn’t required or needed.  Small actions, like buying new drinking glasses, can open your thoughts to the new possibilities.  Free yourself up, it is necessary.

  1. Treat yourself.

The same person used our restroom and asked about the soap in the bathroom because it was so nice.  I said it was just from a discount retail store and that I bought the soap because it was in glass bottles and smelled lovely.  She then talked about how she liked a certain soap and that she needs to go buy some when her current soap is out.  I suggested not to wait.  The soap she loved and enjoyed was just a dollar or two more.  Go buy the soap you enjoy.  A dollar or two won’t matter in the long run but how you treat yourself will.

  1. Enjoy and Move On.

Another visitor shared how she loves a certain type of jelly beans and she can’t help but eat all of her favorite color ones and then think about the other ones and end up eating all of them.  It seemed to be one of the main aspects of her day.  I hear stuff like this all of the time.  We get distracted by food, media, or other people and then our focus goes on things that don’t necessarily add joy to our lives. What about buying the jelly beans, enjoying them and then letting it go?  Better yet, how about finding ways to contribute that are so meaningful and full of passion that minor distractions don’t exist anymore.  Enjoy the jelly beans and move on.

  1. Take the trip.

So many people I talk with are waiting for retirement to see things they have dreamt a lifetime to see.  Seriously, why not now?  Save up.  Reprioritize. Increase your revenue.  Go see what you dream about seeing.  Meet more people of different ways of life. You will have more joy.  Don’t wait till your health is compromised or time is limited to explore and expand your perspective.

  1. Say it.

Recently, a beloved coach and educator passed away in a community that we used to live in.  He was a great guy.  He had an outstanding farewell and tribute, all of which was well deserved and quite beautiful. But I couldn’t help thinking if he was ever told the magnitude of his impact.  Maybe.  Maybe not.  Either way, his passing and the farewell reminded me to make sure people know their impact.  I am recommitted to telling people thank you, acknowledging their contributions and personal impact.  We don’t have to wait for someone to die unexpectedly to realize their impact.  Spread joy with appreciation.

  1. You are  worthy.

So many people are waiting to be the perfect weight before doing something they want.  Stop already.  Your weight shouldn’t determine your worthiness of experiences and joy.  It is like shooting yourself with the second arrow as Buddhist refer to.  There is no perfect time or perfect weight. You are worthy.  The time is now.

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Trust yourself.  Free yourself up. Reset your joy barometer. You know your budget, you know what is healthy and not healthy.

Let’s start believing in ourselves, treating ourselves, and trusting ourselves.  Let’s open ourselves to possibilities.  This approach won’t lead us to fiscal despair, gluttony or being out of control; it will free us up for some joy and flow of good energy.  It is the obsession, self imposed deprivation and limitations, and control that messes with our joy barometer.

Boundaries are good and helpful; what matters is what we do within those boundaries.  The goal should be to create as much joy, possibility, passion and love as possible.  The boundaries should help us not hinder us.

Make your Joy Barometer a daily priority.  Joy is a choice!

We are meant to live joyously and abundantly and sometimes we forget.  Get out of your own way.

Joyfully, Erin

Inspirational Author and Speaker

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Passing Time

 

images-4On a recent flight, I watched a movie called Mr. Church (2016) starring Eddie Murphy based on a true story of friendship.  The reviews are mixed but I enjoyed it.

At one point in the movie one of main characters talks about Mr. Church…his life was how he passed time in between serving others.  He cooked, painted, gardened and played the piano.  I don’t have this citation exact but this isn’t really about the movie; it is about asking ourselves how we are passing time.

Are we working too much?  Have we forgotten how to pass time with beauty and grace?

Are we rushing, waiting for the next vacation or the unlikely windfall of money?

Are we worried and stressed about things we have no control over?

Can we learn to be present; enjoying activities and contributions in new ways?

Are we living in the moment or looking for continual distraction in social media, trash television, and the news?

This movie prompted me to really reflect on a few things in my own life:

How am I serving others on a daily basis?

How do I pass time?

Are there new ways I can enjoy in the between time more?  What interests have I not discovered?  What contributions have I not made?

I hope you will ask the same questions of yourself.  After all, our legacy will be our service and how we used the time in between.

Inspired, Erin

Inspirational Speaker and Author

www.erinramsey.com

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Everything to Gain

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For those of you who have attended my workshops or who know me; know that I am firm believer in writing out your ‘picture perfect’ life and making a visual representation of your vision.  I use a vision board.  I have been making one a year for about the last six years.  My family started making them, too. We all started thinking bigger and being more open to possibilities.

Yesterday, my husband was cleaning out his closet as we prepare to move to the country to start a lavender farm.  He found his first vision board he made about five years ago.  He texted me a picture and noted that he had completely forgotten that he had a lathe on it, let alone this particular one.  He now has that lathe since starting his cue making business over the summer.  We were thrilled to see the Universe conspiring in his favor in such a tangible way.  While it is only a material possession it is a manifestation of seeds he planted years ago and forgot about.

You can make anything you want out of this but we choose gratitude and excitement.  We are planting seeds of abundance and joy and celebrating when they bloom.

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by setting a big vision for your life.

Focus on what you want.  Focus on how you can serve.   Be a light shining bright.

Go make a vison board to start 2017 with excitement and possibility.

Go big.

If you want some help creating your vision my book and workbook have lots of Tools to help you.

Erin

Inspirational Speaker and Author

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Be a friend to Have a Friend

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As I set my intentions for this year, beyond sparkling, letting my soul shine and investing in my talents, I am setting time aside to nurture relationships with friends, family and strangers. We are all connected and need each other to learn, grow and be cared for.

This week I have had two lovely gatherings at my house (one organized by my husband and one with my fabulous POW WOWs), I have had coffee with an old friend, plan to visit another friend recovering from surgery after work today and plan to meet two friends for lunch tomorrow. I am busy, as I am sure you are. I travel, I have a demanding job, a growing business, a book underway, creating special projects, a big family and lots of pets but I plan to make time for new and old friendships in 2015 and this decision feels great!

Relationships are at the core of a joyful life; make the effort and take the time. The only excuse we have is the one we make up. People first.

Be a friend to have a friend.

Love Your Friend, Erin

Vision is About YOU! Make 2015 Your Best Year Ever

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Step 2: Get Clear in Your Mind’s Eye on What You Want in the Biggest Way Possible

In Step 1 of Making 2015 Your Best Year Ever I suggested you answer this question over and over again:

Wouldn’t It Be Great If…?

By now, hopefully you have charted an audacious course and have taken action by writing down a long list of things that you think would be great in your life.

At this point, go through your list and only keep the statements that pertain to YOU. If you have statements about others remove them unless it is something you are doing or feeling. This is the hard part for many people because it is often easier to wish great things for others. Your vision is about YOU.

Compile your statements into a written story or description in the present tense. Don’t hold back; be daring. Keep negative self talk, fear, doubt and guilt to the side; acknowledge those thoughts and feelings and then move on to abundance. Most importantly have fun thinking about the best case for your life.

While compiling your words; create pictures in your mind of what this life will look and feel like. You can draw pictures or make notes. This will help you bring it to life in your vision board.
You may need to write your best case several times. It takes effort and courage. You will never regret taking the time to create your best life in your mind. You are planting seeds of greatness; you are becoming what you are meant to be.

Be Bold and Brave.

Practicing courage means we are brave enough to take action to discover and pursue what we really want.

With excitement, Erin

Wouldn’t It Be Great If…? Make 2015 Your Best Year Ever!

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Over the next couple of months I will be posting tips for making 2015 your best year ever! Here is the first step in prepping to make an awesome vision board for 2015. Spend time thinking about what you really want by using the statement:

Wouldn’t it be great if…?.

When we know what we want and we ask for what we want we are actually opening the doors to be able to contribute more to others.

Most people spend more time planning a vacation or choosing which car to buy than they do thinking about what they want for their life. The epidemic is that we are either thinking too small or not at all about our greatest hopes and dreams. It is scary to dream big and think bolder because we may risk failure, rejection from others or actually be afraid and feel unworthy of what we really want. The challenge and responsibility is to be courageous so you have more to contribute. The hope is that you don’t wake up one day and realize you never used your gifts to benefit others because you were afraid or to realize you just let life happen to you. You are meant to live abundantly and joyously.

You can start dreaming bigger by answering this question: Wouldn’t it be great if…? Answer it over and over again. As you become comfortable with it, start writing down your answers. Free your mind to think and open your heart to visualize outlandish dreams and impossibilities. At first, this tool may bring out feelings of guilt or greed. You may have thoughts like: we shouldn’t ask for more, we should be content with what we do have, I don’t deserve more, it will never happen, people will think I am crazy or every time I get my hopes up I am disappointed. These are common reactions. Move pass your old ways of thinking, you have new tools now to respond to opportunity in new ways. You are courageous. You may have been conditioned that we should be grateful and content with what we already have. Gratitude is essential but while you begin using this tool remember that when we know what we want and we ask for what we want we are opening the doors to be able to contribute more to others.

If we continue to think small and without vision, the same happens to those we love the most. When we step out and begin to live courageously we inevitably empower others to do the same. So forge through the negative feelings and practice using this tool. It is truly life changing. This is a powerful tool so make sure you are saying and writing the experiences, relationships, opportunities and things that you REALLY want. Include vacations, profession, contributions, how you spend your time, where you live, who you are with, how you feel, how you look, what your hobbies are.

Once you compile your responses turn them into present and achieved statements. Use presence not contingencies. This strategy plants a more powerful and healthy seed; you reap a great harvest when you plant the right seeds in healthy soil and nurture it over time. Your dreams are the seeds, your thoughts and actions are the nourishment and your harvest is living abundantly in every way.

Here are examples of how you move from answering the question to creating achieved statements:

Wouldn’t it be great if I wrote a bestselling book? Wouldn’t it be great if I lived on the beach? Wouldn’t it be great if I had lots of authentic friendships and fabulous dinner parties?

Here are the types of statements you want to include in your working vision (present tense and detailed):

I have a best-selling book that is helping millions of people. I have a beautiful beach house where I walk out my back door with my dogs and enjoy the fresh air and beautiful scenery. I host a monthly dinner party with fabulous friends who support me and I support them. Our friendships are authentic and our best interests are the driving force in everything we do.

Once you have your written statements it is a good idea to create a visual cue to help you envision and focus on what you really want. You can print photos, cut magazines, write words, or draw pictures of everything you want, big and small. I suggest you frame it or use special materials so it is a personal treasure. (I will share samples in the next blog for Making 2015 Your Best Year Ever!)

Never give up on what you really want to do. The person with the big dream is more powerful than the one with all the facts. ~Albert Einstein

Affirmation: I dream big and think bold; I am worthy and capable of having what I really want. I believe in the power of my thoughts and actions. I empower others through Living Inspired.

Action Statement: I will take time to think bolder and dream bigger about my life. I will expand my thoughts. I will think about and decide what I really want. I will create a written statement and/or a visual cue to remind myself of my greatest hopes and dreams.

Dream Big, Practice Courage.

Erin

P.S.: You may feel totally uncomfortable and even incapable of imagining beyond where you are. It is ok; you just need to practice new ways of thinking and keep your fear at bay. Just keep using the tools even if you don’t totally believe it. Before you know it, they will start to work and you will be flabbergasted by the results.

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Teary Eyed Mary: No Such Thing As Strangers

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An elderly lady with a wide brimmed hat made eye contact with me. We had never met but our hearts knew each other.

Her name was Mary. We were seated together on the airplane like two angels side by side on a journey.

Mary was leaving her home. Her husband was being driven across the country by her daughter because it would have been too disruptive for him to fly due to his advanced Alzheimer’s. Mary was alone, saying good bye to her home and leaving behind the life she knew.

We talked about her work at JC Penney (explaining the hat with the gold trim instead of me picturing her at the local casino; a made up story in my mind; not Mary’s story). She shared her plans to decorate her new kitchen with red accents. She shared how her husband was sometimes violent due to his illness. She shared how she felt closing up her house for the last time. She had hopes of finding bingo in Arizona and hopes not to be a burden on her daughter. We discovered that she knew my husband’s grandmother when they worked together in housekeeping at the hospital many years ago. We talked the whole way. We laughed. We cried.

Mary was scared. Aren’t we all?

Mary was hopeful, loyal and fun. Shouldn’t we be?

I reassured her. I told her how brave she was. I encouraged her to get help with her husband and keep herself out of danger. We agreed the behavior was the disease not her husband. I listened. I heard Mary’s story.

Her story could be my story. My story could be your story. Your story could be her story. We are all connected.

As I deplaned she was sitting in a wheelchair on the jet bridge waiting with her escort; she reached her hand to me with big tears in her eyes and squeezed. As I looked in Mary’s eyes I was moved by our connection. All of the people and noise and rushing disappeared for a moment as I saw Mary through the puddles in her eyes.

I met Mary over two years ago and I still think of her often. I am so grateful that I listened. I didn’t hide my face in a book or close my eyes so not to be bothered. Mary gave me a gift; in two hours she reminded me that we need to be there for other people even if they appear to be strangers.

In the end none of us are strangers.
Stop hiding. Reach out. Show up. Get connected.
Be there for someone else; it is the greatest gift you can give yourself.

With love, Erin

Hospitality: What color is your door?

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The door can be used as a metaphor for our hearts; they both open up to our homes. Whether it is where we physically or spiritually live we have a home. We can choose how we welcome others.

We recently painted our front door red. Mostly because my husband was inspired by all of the brightly colored front doors we saw on a recent trip to Ireland.

A red door can have several meanings:

• In traditional America, it means come in to eat and stay the night.
• In the Old Testament, people rubbed blood for protection from the Angel of Death.
• Feng Shui says a red door creates a welcoming energy.
• It also can mean it is a mortgage free home (someday!).

I love my red door. I have become more comfortable with it. I notice how people stop and look or regular visitors comment on it. When one of my sons came home for a visit from college he said it was the first thing he noticed.

Hospitality is the quality or disposition of receiving and treating guests and strangers in a warm, friendly, generous way.

It makes me think that sometimes we need to be a bit bold and open to new approaches to draw people into our homes; to promote hospitality with our presence and our spirits. Whether it is the color of our door or our welcoming hearts we need to find ways to open them to others. Hospitality matters. Be brave with your home and your heart. Life is more full and fun when we are hospitable.

With a welcoming heart, Erin