Recently, two special young women in my life had experiences where they busted a move and didn’t wait around. They valued their time.
One wanted to experience a high school dance. She didn’t want a date. She got decked out and looked stunning. She decided to meet a couple of friends there. She drove herself. She walked in alone. Now, I don’t know about you but I don’t think I would have done any of this while I was in high school. I would have wanted/needed to go in with friends, be with a group and wished for a date. Not this girl. She is decisive even when not completely confident.
Once she entered the dance and met up with her friends she mingled, walked around and went to the bathroom when things got awkward. Then she decided she wasn’t having fun. People were doing things she isn’t interested in. So while she tried for a bit to have fun, she realized she just wanted to experience the dance and get dressed up. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED. She didn’t need to wait around for it to turn fun. She wasn’t obligated to wait for it be over.
She knew what she wanted, she did it. She went home to her dog and her family. The things she enjoys.
No wasting time on things that don’t matter and are not desired.
The second young woman, unfortunately, found herself in an unhealthy work environment. After lots of hardship and inequity she gave her two-week notice. She trained everyone within the first week. On that Friday, she realized she had performed her responsibility. She was also keenly aware the environment was dangerous to her mental health so she sent a professional email stating she would be leaving that day, for good. She didn’t need to waste a week of her life in a bad situation.
No filling time to just fill time with blind obligation.
Realizing what to stop doing is a strong step in the direction of learning what to start doing.
Stop waiting for the dance to be over. Stop waiting for the notice to end.
How can these two examples of action be compared to everyday life?
Stop reading the mediocre novel that you don’t love just because you started it.
Go read something you love. Read something you want to learn about and that challenges you or completely entertains you.
Is your time worth a mediocre novel?
Stop engaging in conversations that are negative, petty or ill willed just for the sake of trying to be polite.
Be alone over wasteful conversations. Spend your time with people who are uplifting. Make time with your own thoughts. Get away from these interactions even if it is uncomfortable.
Is your time worth snarky people?
Stop waiting for the fair weather friend to become the friend you want and need.
Go spend time with and give energy to people who have your back. If don’t have anyone like this in your life, make room for them to enter.
Is your time worth hurtful friendships?
Stop waiting for the big break, the lottery windfall of wealth or the perfect stroke of luck.
Go create a life of joy and excitement.
Is your time worth hoping it away?
Stop waiting for people to do what you want them to do.
Do more of what YOU want to do.
Is your time worth trying to control things you can’t?
Stop wearing the outfit you feel frumpy in because you spent money on it.
Put something on you love and that you feel good in. Go donate that outfit.
No amount of money is worth frumpy.
Stop saving the glassware and china for special occasions.
Everyday is an occasion.
Stop waiting until you lose the weight, have enough money, find the right person or have the perfect job.
Your moment is now. The perfect time is the time you have now.
This all might sound easier said than done. True; until you start practicing. With a few tools you can begin making decisions about your time that will move you in the direction of what you want. Closer to your dreams and knowing how much your time is worth.
Getting clarity of purpose and practicing courage can equip you to blaze your trail. Yes, it does take effort and courage to discover and express your true wants. Sometimes, it feels easier to wait around for whatever because we either don’t know what we want or it is too scary. It’s ok not to know or to be afraid. It isn’t ok to do nothing about your fear and lack of knowledge. Check out the tools in Inspired Work for Clarity of Purpose or the tools in Be Amazing for Practicing Courage.
Purpose and Courage are the cornerstones of learning how to value your time.
Your time is priceless. You don’t get it back, you can’t buy it and you can’t wish for it.
You can make the most it. Value it. Treasure it.
We are intended to live joyously and abundantly.
Not waiting around, Erin
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