You Have the POWER

You have the POWER to manage your thoughts and feelings.

It sounds easy but it takes practice.

It is necessary to train your brain.

It is one thing that will change how you live and feel.

It will move you away from depletion, mediocrity, negativity…. anything that is preventing you from living joyously and abundantly.

I don’t want to oversimplify or over generalize but I do know that if you start focusing more on what you want versus what you don’t want you will get more of what you want.

After offering numerous workshops, speeches, and coaching conversations I realize this is one thing that people underestimate the most in improving their lives.

The underestimation of focus, details, conscientiousness of our thoughts block all other efforts to live the way you really want to.

Far too many people have been taught or developed habits of focusing on the negative, so it becomes challenging to know what we really want.

Here are a few things to give you an idea on training your brain:

I don’t want to be broke anymore.  I don’t want debt.
 I am moving toward financial abundance.
Money is energy and I am open to receiving. I manage money well. Money is freedom tokens.
Think about how much money you want.  Think about how you will feel. What your life will be like and what you will do.

I need to lose of 30 pounds.  I am overweight.
My body is strong, and I honor it.  I move it often and I nourish it with healthy food and thoughts.  I have healthy routines and rituals that keep my body vibrant.
Visualize how you want your body to be.  What you will wear, what you will be doing and how you will feel.

I am sick of being so negative. I procrastinate and I keep telling myself my sad story over and over again.
The world is my oyster.  I am open and worthy to positive experiences and thoughts.  I get to decide how I feel and how I act.  I smile, laugh and talk about good things.  I am a person action because I know what I want.

You might be having thoughts like this:

Whatever Erin.  You haven’t been through what I am going through.
This is annoying. 
This won’t work for me.
I need more than just thoughts.

I get it.  I understand.  I was there too.

I am here to remind you that you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Thoughts are free.

It can be fun if you let it be.

Nothing changes unless we do and the first place to start is with our thoughts then followed by action.

Take care of business while you expand your thoughts.

Deal with challenges then put most of your effort in retraining your brain to focus on the good and what you want.

Challenges will always be a part of life, what we do with them and the direction we move in is our choice!

Before you know it, things that seemed impossible and even delusion will come to fruition.

Be disciplined toward joy and abundance.

Trust me, this city girl lives on lavender farm in rural Kentucky…never in my wildest dreams!
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Join me on the fun way to live no matter where you are now you can begin to discover dreams you don’t even know you have.

Your thoughts and words are magical, start using them to your benefit.
Everyone around you will win!

Think big and think good, Erin

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Two Years from Now

jumpstartjoyphotoI started rearranging my office last night to prepare for the recordings of my online workshops called JUMP START JOY (look for registration in March only $99 for six workshops with me). You will want to join in!

The real point of this email is to share a moment with you.

As I was putting my books back on the shelves one caught my eye.  It is called The Alladin Factor by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen.  I picked it up and looked at which pages I tabbed (I tab all the books I read.)

As I was perusing, I remembered vividly how I had read this book ten years ago on a cruise during spring break with my four kids and my husband.  It was a cruise we couldn’t 20200228_122743afford but I was desperate to not have phone service (a forced vacation from work).

I remembered how I cried in the bathroom more than once because I felt alone.

I remembered sitting on the deck reading this book and getting a glimpse of hope. It is weird I have not re read this book.  I plan to this weekend.

So, if you have heard me speak, you know this was the breaking point in my life for my stress level of being in a failing marriage, a grumpy mom and a broke workaholic.

Man, I was sad.  So very sad…to my core. I may have looked stressed or grumpy, but the truth was it was pure sadness.  Everything may have seemed fine to others, in fact many have told me now they had no idea, but nothing was ok, and I was hiding.

Looking back, I truly could not have ever imagined how my life is today.

This is a reminder, anything is possible.

20200228_135850This is the exact same trip where my daughter Molly, found the first heart!  You can read the story again in my book, Be Amazing(p.7). Little did I know that tiny heart on the beach would be the turning point for me and for so many others.

Here is what I tabbed:

If everything went perfectly for you in the next two years, how would you like to see your life change?

 I don’t remember if I answered this on the cruise, but I have been disciplined in focusing on what I want rather than what I don’t want for these past ten years and it certainly pays off.

If you feel sad, lost or on the cusp of greatness, keep your focus on what you really want.  Practice courage to think about the good and the possible.

2019owensborolivingToday I live on a lavender farm with my two of my four kids, three grand babies, my daughter in law and husband. My marriage is strong, my business to help others live big is growing and I have so many awesome experiences travelling, learning and experimenting with my life!

I have problems just like anyone else.  We all live under the human condition. But I am certain there is way more good than bad if we start looking for the good.

What goodness do you want over the next two years?

We can do this together.  We are intended for joy and abundance and we have the strength to handle the hard times.  You are not alone.

Gratefully, Erin

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Step Away

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With the holiday season in full swing I am reminding myself not to get sucked into the fire. Stay away from the frenzy, the tough relationships, the cooking and cleaning and spending. We get to choose. I am choosing presence.

Remind yourself to step back and away whenever you find yourself moving in a direction that doesn’t align with your priorities.

Gratefully, Erin

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Vegan Hot Dog & Italy

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Yesterday I had a vegan hot dog for lunch, and I booked a trip to Italy for my husband and I this spring.  What a day.  A day that I could not have even imagined a few years ago.

Everything is a process and unless we stop to notice where we are, we might run in circles instead of pursuing paths of possibilities. My hot dog and travel plans are the perfect examples of paths of possibilities. Neither one was on my radar just a few years ago but as I continue to think big and bust moves all the right things show up.

Life isn’t always easy; everything isn’t rainbows and sunshine, but we can make the good times better than ever and we can bounce back and grow from the hard times quicker and better with this equation:

Thinking Bigger + Acting Bigger =

LIVING BIGGER

 

If I would not have started to let myself discover what I really wanted, how I wanted to be, what I wanted to do the paths of possibilities would have been limited.  I certainly know I would not have had a vegan hot dog (I have been vegetarian for over a year…that is a story for another day) and I highly doubt I would be heading to Italy in five months with my husband who I adore.

You can start the process no matter where you are.

Busting Moves, Erin

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The Game Changing Chair

On a recent follow up call to a retreat, I asked each person to share any action they had taken to move in the direction they really wanted to go.

As each person reported, they shared how they were using the tools.  Embracing self-consideration, thinking bigger about their lives, focusing on what they want instead of what they don’t and capitalizing on routines and rituals were common themes.

One woman shared that she decided to create more space for thinking time.  She realized she had gotten away from it over the years.  When she sat in her chair, she realized the reason was probably because the rocking chair was too big for her, it was broken and was being held up by the wall. All of which had been ‘put up with’ for a long time.

She paused and in a matter of fact manner told the group that she told herself she was worthy of a new chair.

She went out and purchased a chair for her thinking space.
Now this may just sound like a `duh’ to some.  Broken chair equals new chair.

But I can pretty much guarantee her buying a new chair for herself has improved the entire trajectory of her life.

A true game changer.

When we do small things to consider ourselves, we are opening a door to possibility.  We are putting out to the world that we no longer equate ourselves with the 75% off rack or to the broken chair. We are preparing for the big opportunities to come our way and preparing to say yes them and to ourselves!

We are building our strength and self-respect by tending to our spirits and our needs.
One small action can be a catalyst for unlimited possibilities.
We can clear the way for joy and abundance.

What is one thing you can do for yourself to help you tend to your spirit this week?

Get rid of your worn out under garments.
Buy a fresh bath towel.
Drink your favorite drink.
Declutter your closet.
Go for a walk.
Get an extra hour sleep.
Create a peaceful morning ritual.
Organize your purse.
Treat yourself to something that isn’t an afterthought or a clearance item.
Take a bubble bath.
Say how you really feel.
Decline something you don’t really want to do.
Do something you are afraid to do.
Go for a walk.

How are you going to change your game?
Everything counts.
Start small and before you know it you will be busting mind blowing moves with your life.
You are worthy.

Busting Moves, Erin

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What I Remembered @ Nike World Headquarters

I loved speaking at Nike World Headquarters last week.

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The environment was abundant and chill while enveloped in a feeling of excellence and serenity. The campus was beautiful with a lake, gardens, photo banners of athletes who dedicated their lives to be the best and breathtaking architecture with perfectly placed water features. The details were tended to with intentional impeccability.

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The quiet conversations being spoken in lots of different languages, the fresh food, bikes, walking paths, photos and beauty made me almost forget that thousands of people were working there.  The quiet calmness midday on Thursday was phenomenal.  It was chill.

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Shoe Dog, Phil Knight’s biography, and my visit to Nike World Headquarters inspired me to remember:

~how important it is to create a business and a life grounded in what you want

~physical environment matters

~focus on relationships

~tend to the details

~things can grow and change fast (Nike was founded when I was a child)

~you can be abundant and serene

~chillness and excellence can co-exist

~dreams can happen if you JUST DO IT!

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Keep putting yourself out there.  Keep making space for ideas. Keep thinking big about your life and your contributions.  You never know where your bold actions will take you.

You are intended to live joyously and abundantly.  You are destined for greatness.  BUST A MOVE.

Busting moves with gratitude, Erin

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Mix It Up

mixitupI have been getting my nails done the same way for SIXTEEN years.  Short to medium length with a square shape.  Today I decided to try a new shape.  It was fun and kind of exciting.  I know, you might be thinking I need to get a life.  Does the shape of your nails really even matter?

Obviously, it isn’t about my nails.  It is about mixing things up.  Creating a feeling of newness, curiosity, and excitement with everyday things can expand the possibilities for joy and abundance in your life.  Keep yourself on your toes!

Mix it up by:

Try driving a different way home from work or the store.

Listen to a new type of music.

Tweak your schedule. Go to bed earlier. Get up earlier.

Buy a new lipstick color.  One you would have never considered before.

Visit a new place where you live.  A park, a place of worship, a store…make a discovery.

Make a new recipe.

Go to the produce department and buy something you have never eaten before.

Do something nice for someone out of the blue.

There are so many ways we can mix it up.  What have you been doing the same way for a long time?  Do something new to make room for possibilities.

Loving my new nails.

Erin

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Get the Spring Back in Your Step

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I don’t know about you, but this winter has been long for me. The skies have been grey and the rain plenty. I am grateful for the water and the reprieve from intense heat yet at the same time the darkness and the chill sometimes diminish the natural spring in my step.

I know this happens every year. I fully embrace that everything is a process.

Sometimes jumping into the process in new ways can help us navigate the way we really want to live and feel.

Now with March upon us, I am taking action to unleash the Spring in my step before Spring is officially here!

Here are things we can do together:

1. Wear brighter colors. (see my green shirt?!)
2. Wear springy nail polish and lipstick.
3. Watch one hilarious YouTube video a day.
4. Assess routines and rituals for high energy and joy! For example, use a springy mug for morning coffee or make time to watch the sunrise and the sunset. (cute mug, huh?)
5. Buy a new bottle of sunscreen in preparation for sunny days by the pool and in the garden!
6. Get a new pen. (I am going to change the colors in my bullet journal to brighter spring colors.)
7. Plant seeds.
8. Cut daffodils (straight from the front yard) or buy yourself a bouquet at the grocery store this week.
9. Clean out a drawer, a cabinet, a closet. Declutter to make room for the new season, new energy and new experiences.
10. Rearrange your gratitude chair or special place. (If you don’t have one, create one).
11. Light a floral candle.
12. Get some new sheets.
13. Get a new welcome mat and sweep the entry to your home.
14. Clean windows.
15. Detail your car.
16. Moisturize your skin.
17. Buy a sundress!
18. Go for a stroll.
19. Start a new hobby.
20. Learn about something you are curious about.
21. Plan a new experience. Even if it is just in your own neighborhood. See something new.

In with the new, out with the old! New thoughts. Refreshed feelings. Novel experiences. Clarity. Renewed vibrancy.

Happy early Spring! Erin

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The Big Door Moment

doorThe true foundation of authenticity is trusting yourself.

I recently had a weird experience where I was shocked to meet someone in person after reading her writings and appreciating the purpose of her work.  I was surprised because the way she was acting didn’t seem to line up with what was in her heart.

It was a Big Door Moment for her.  A Big Door Moment is when what has been worked for has arrived.

I write about this mismatch between behavior and heart without judgment because I know how much courage is required to walk through doors. I also refrain from judgment because it may have been my perception and not reality.  Nevertheless, it got me thinking about opportunities and how we handle them.

One of my favorite new quotes is “If the door doesn’t open then it wasn’t your door.”  I love it because it signifies total faith in everything conspiring in our favor.  We don’t need to waste time agonizing about it because we know when it is right and we are ready a bigger, better door will open.

The question I am posing now is:  How are we preparing for the Big Door Moment so we can walk through it with authenticity, grace and trust?

All of us will have Big Door Moments.  The promotion, the perfect partner, the big break, the creative idea that takes off, the goal is achieved or the experience we always wanted and worked for diligently has come to fruition.

These moments are a time to celebrate, but for many of us the feelings may be new, fear might creep in, self-doubt or overwhelm may dilute, sabotage and possibly flat out ruin our experience and the positive impact we could have on others.

You deserve to walk through your door with grace and authenticity. You are strong enough to take the step and your spirit is beautiful enough to do it in a way that best represents you.

Be prepared so your heart will shine through.  Letting your most pure intention, your driving force of purpose, your passion, your hard work and your strength shine brighter than your outfit, your words and your actions.  This is authenticity.

Let your spirit guide you.  Let humility show your confidence.  Let gratitude for those who helped you and for your ability to put forth effort be acknowledged.  Share your success in the biggest ways possible so others know it is possible for them too.

Remember the struggle, the courage and the loneliness and show others BIG doors are waiting for them too.

Prepare yourself for the Big Door opening in your everyday relationship with yourself.  Be aware of your responses, reactions, words, feelings and self-worth.

When you are scared…be brave and true to yourself.  There is no need to over react, withdraw or take on behaviors that don’t reflect your heart.  Being arrogant, yelling, bragging, pouting, speaking too loudly or talking over people, cussing profusely, negative self talk or calling people out are warning signs and defense mechanisms.

Say or think, I am scared.  I am practicing courage right now.  I am capable of getting through this.

I know who I am.  I know how to manage big feelings in ways that reflect my spirit.

I am authentic and I trust myself.  I am aware of my ego preying on my fear. 

My true spirit is stronger than my ego.

Your Big Door is waiting to open for you when you are ready.  Start getting ready.

When you have BIG feelings make concerted effort to:

Align your actions with your priorities.

Match your thoughts with your values.

Keep your heart open and practice trusting yourself.

Let the world see your beauty, your courage, your strength, your tenacity, your struggle…all of which make you so beautiful.  Don’t hide the real you, especially when it is time for celebration.

You deserve complete and total celebration!

To Big Doors opening for you and to appreciating the ones that don’t.

Kudos for even walking through the door…many won’t even go that far.

With gratitude, Erin

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The Tool That Changed My Life

livebigSometimes a small step at the right time or a piece of information just when you are ready for it can make the biggest difference.

Not so long ago I was in a failing marriage, stressed out workaholic, rushed mother and sick.  I knew this was not how I was intended to live.

I made a decision to learn how to live differently.  I knew I was intended to live joyously and abundantly.

The tool that started it all was Picking a Word.

I remember clearly my first word nine years ago was PEACE.

I adapted this tool by finding ways for it to help me make decisions and navigate new thought patterns.

I use my word to navigate my thought patterns to focus on what I want not what I don’t want.

For example, if I am invited out to dinner but don’t really want to go.  I ask myself if this dinner will bring me more PEACE (insert your word).  If the answer is no, I don’t go.

If I have responsibilities that are not optional, I use my word.

I am going to do the laundry PEACEFULLY because I am so grateful to have a washer and dryer.

I am going to pay my bills peacefully.  I will prepare dinner with peace in my heart because I am so grateful to have food.

My annual word really becomes my compass. 

It is tangible and simple yet profound in changing thoughts and behaviors.

If it is hard for you to say NO, use your word.  When you focus on what you want it becomes easier to not do things out of guilt or habit.

If you have no clue what you really want, keep asking yourself the question.  You can try a few words till you find the one that works.

Many people choose HAPPY or JOY or PEACE…all wonderful guides but you must take the time to think about how these words feel and look like in your life otherwise what you think you want can be eluding.

Make the time this year to move in the direction of what you really want. 

Put the work in.  It takes effort to form new habits.  It takes courage to go after what you really want.

You will never regret putting forth effort and practicing courage.

Starting with a word can be the beginning of a whole new life!

My marriage is solid, my family is connected, my lavender farm inspires me, my books and workshops are hopefully helping women and I know what I want!

I would love to know your word for 2019.  Email me OR  share it on Facebook.   

With gratitude, Erin

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