What are we waiting for?
Several people have come into my life lately that have prompted me to pose this question once again.
Today is your day. Stop limiting the possibilities. Stop obsessing over stuff that doesn’t matter. Stop waiting for the perfect time. Begin to treat yourself. Start looking for joy and you will have more to give.
Here are few examples that have inspired me to reset my Joy Barometer:
- Free yourself up.
We had a few guests over, I was in conversation about how our drinking glasses were always breaking. Our guest said she wishes her glasses would break so she could get new ones. I asked why she needs to wait till they break. There was no reason. She wasn’t aiming toward an extravagant purchase outside of her budget. She just wasn’t considering freeing herself up to get something new even if it wasn’t ‘needed’. Sometimes it is a good idea to do something new even if isn’t required or needed. Small actions, like buying new drinking glasses, can open your thoughts to the new possibilities. Free yourself up, it is necessary.
- Treat yourself.
The same person used our restroom and asked about the soap in the bathroom because it was so nice. I said it was just from a discount retail store and that I bought the soap because it was in glass bottles and smelled lovely. She then talked about how she liked a certain soap and that she needs to go buy some when her current soap is out. I suggested not to wait. The soap she loved and enjoyed was just a dollar or two more. Go buy the soap you enjoy. A dollar or two won’t matter in the long run but how you treat yourself will.
- Enjoy and Move On.
Another visitor shared how she loves a certain type of jelly beans and she can’t help but eat all of her favorite color ones and then think about the other ones and end up eating all of them. It seemed to be one of the main aspects of her day. I hear stuff like this all of the time. We get distracted by food, media, or other people and then our focus goes on things that don’t necessarily add joy to our lives. What about buying the jelly beans, enjoying them and then letting it go? Better yet, how about finding ways to contribute that are so meaningful and full of passion that minor distractions don’t exist anymore. Enjoy the jelly beans and move on.
- Take the trip.
So many people I talk with are waiting for retirement to see things they have dreamt a lifetime to see. Seriously, why not now? Save up. Reprioritize. Increase your revenue. Go see what you dream about seeing. Meet more people of different ways of life. You will have more joy. Don’t wait till your health is compromised or time is limited to explore and expand your perspective.
- Say it.
Recently, a beloved coach and educator passed away in a community that we used to live in. He was a great guy. He had an outstanding farewell and tribute, all of which was well deserved and quite beautiful. But I couldn’t help thinking if he was ever told the magnitude of his impact. Maybe. Maybe not. Either way, his passing and the farewell reminded me to make sure people know their impact. I am recommitted to telling people thank you, acknowledging their contributions and personal impact. We don’t have to wait for someone to die unexpectedly to realize their impact. Spread joy with appreciation.
- You are worthy.
So many people are waiting to be the perfect weight before doing something they want. Stop already. Your weight shouldn’t determine your worthiness of experiences and joy. It is like shooting yourself with the second arrow as Buddhist refer to. There is no perfect time or perfect weight. You are worthy. The time is now.
Trust yourself. Free yourself up. Reset your joy barometer. You know your budget, you know what is healthy and not healthy.
Let’s start believing in ourselves, treating ourselves, and trusting ourselves. Let’s open ourselves to possibilities. This approach won’t lead us to fiscal despair, gluttony or being out of control; it will free us up for some joy and flow of good energy. It is the obsession, self imposed deprivation and limitations, and control that messes with our joy barometer.
Boundaries are good and helpful; what matters is what we do within those boundaries. The goal should be to create as much joy, possibility, passion and love as possible. The boundaries should help us not hinder us.
Make your Joy Barometer a daily priority. Joy is a choice!
We are meant to live joyously and abundantly and sometimes we forget. Get out of your own way.
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