It’s Meant for You, Too.

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After the first workshop at my farm ended a participant and I were chatting.  She was talking about wanting to start her business, take better care of her body and get brave enough to get over being hurt when she let herself be vulnerable.  Tears welled up in her eyes while talking about how she has become afraid which leads to self sabotaging behavior.

I felt her pain.  I have been there.  You have probably been there, too.

We are in this together.

Everyone is afraid.

AND

Everyone can choose to muster the strength to believe they are worthy of their dreams.

Together we can be strong enough to declare our greatest dreams, open our hearts for companionship and valiantly embrace our greatness.

We get to choose courage.

I told her I understood.  I shared how I was petrified to write my first book, scared to start the farm and even nervous to host the first workshop that day.

She paused with a sad look on her face and said, “Yeah, but it seems it was meant for you.”

When you have a dream, a nudge, a longing or an idea they become meant for you, too.

The people you see shining bright, living a life you could only imagine, they have a plethora of failures, fears and lonely moments of self doubt.  The only difference is they took action.

One action after another.  Nose to the grind stone.

The Courage Equation:

Fear + Action = Confidence

Life’s greatest outcomes are meant for YOU.

Get to it.

We can fail together, we can be scared together, we can doubt ourselves together and we can rise above together.  We are meant for joy and abundance.

Get out of your own way.

Take a step toward what you really want.

Digging Deep, Erin

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What kind of world are you creating?

lovefearlesslyTen years ago, in a diversity class in my master’s program, a professor shared this quote by Paulo Freire, “Create a world in which it is easier to love.”

I typed it up and put it in my home office.  I looked at it for years.  It helped me through boring conference calls, challenging assignments and writing my first book.

Fast forward several years and my oldest son’s girlfriend had a friend over.  This friend ended up being that professor’s daughter.  I showed her the quote in my office that was inspired by her dad’s class.

This past Saturday, we were hosting the first wedding at our farm. My daughter in law and the professor’s daughter were in the wedding party.

So ten years later, on my farm under the stars, the professor and I chatted.  I told him of the impression he made on me with the quote.

I shared how this quote has helped me keep my ego in check, my heart full of compassion and to continually clarify my purpose, all of our purposes, to CREATE A WORLD IN WHICH IT IS EASIER TO LOVE.

You may never know the impact your words and actions have on others.  Sometimes we might get lucky and have full circle moments. Most of the time we probably won’t have the chance to circle back or to share so when you get the chance to thank someone, encourage someone, share a story, pat a back or love a bit more do it.

Remember to keep asking yourself: What kind of world are you creating?

Going for it, Erin

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ENJOY YOUR DAYS

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This summer we opened our lavender farm to visitors. I have had the chance to meet so many incredible people. I have heard their fascinating, inspiring and sad stories. I have been given the gift of making connections with others and with nature that use to only be a dream.

One quiet morning a group of herb lovers came to visit.  One of the ladies in the group started talking with me.  She mentioned how her husband won’t remember the butterflies because he has Alzheimer’s.  Then she told me that she didn’t want to dump her problems on me but that she had stage four lung cancer.  I asked her about her prognosis and we talked about some of the new treatments.

She said that she is glad to be out of bed and that her doctor told her, “Go Enjoy Your Days.”

Nothing else could be done. No more treatments.

The prescription: ENJOY YOUR DAYS.

So here she was showing me photos of her recent pressed flower project, reminiscing of all of the projects she used to do and sporting her beautiful linen shirt with lavender embroidery and even wearing a pin hold a piece of lavender.

She was enjoying her day.

She was enjoying her day with her husband even though she knew he wouldn’t remember.

She put her make up on, pressed her linen shirt, fastened her pin and came to a lavender farm.

I was humbled and inspired to meet her on my farm, doing what she loved and with whom she loved with a hopeful resolve and quiet sadness that it all may be over soon.

The fact is we are all dying. Everyone dies.

The real question is: Are we enjoying our days?

We don’t have to wait for a diagnosis to focus enjoying our days.

Here are some ways I enjoy my days:

Savor the first sip of coffee in the morning.

Listen to the birds.

Watch the clouds float by.

Play with my dogs.

Read.

Take pictures.

Meditate.

Sit in the sauna.

Brainstorm ideas.

Give gifts.

Hold my husband’s hand in the car.

Talk with my kids.

Snuggle my grandbabies.

Write things down in my Goodness Jar.

Walk the labyrinth.

Sit on my porch and watch the sun go down.

Cross things off my to do list with a highlighter.

Check up on friends.

Walk through my house with gratitude.

Cut flowers.

And on and on…

By thinking about what we enjoy and expressing gratitude for these things we will have more enjoyment.

Make a list and keep adding to it.

Enjoy your days, friend.

Hugs, Erin

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Be Like Bob Ross

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It was the eve of a new month.  My sixteen-year old daughter and I were talking about our goals for the upcoming month.  I started sharing some new rituals I was going to introduce into my routine.  She was talking about her goals and the ideas she was generating to make them happen.  Then I said I want to be abundant and not obsessive about the things I want to do and try.

I asked her how she wanted to be in the upcoming month.

She paused and thought for a second and said, “I want to be like Bob Ross.”

I asked her how does being like Bob Ross look and feel.  She said let’s watch him.  So we watched one of his painting shows. We LOVED watching him. Our puppy, Honey, loved him too!  We were mesmerized, we smiled and laughed and even felt inspired!

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If you haven’t watched him or don’t know who he is go to Youtube and pull one up; you wont be sorry.

Here are a few of our takeaways from Bob Ross:

Happy Accidents 

Letting go of mistakes or unplanned events and reframing life’s curve balls as ‘happy accidents’ can make things better!  Making mistakes means you are trying, you are doing hard things, you are out of your comfort zone, you are trying. Don’t beat yourself up. It is just a happy accident.

Visual. Then off you go.

Visualizing is an awesome tool when working toward something whether it is a big dream, a small goal, an interaction or an experience.  Visual then set yourself free!  Lighten up.  Keep it simple.

Talk to the colors.

My personal favorite is he talks to the colors like they are his friends. He says, “I will be right back”, when he goes to use a different color.  It might sound over the top but for me it was a feeling of consideration, respect and reassurance.  We should do this for everything in our lives, even colors!

His cool afro, calming voice and easy going painting tips have much to offer.

Let’s be like Bob Ross: creative, relaxed, simple and goal directed, present and considerate.

Lighten up on yourself.

Happy Trees. Happy Life.

Off I go….Erin

PS: For all the teachers reading this, play Bob Ross in your art area for your children.  They will love him and learn some techniques.  He is like the Fred Rogers of painting!

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BIG Goodness

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Last year I started a new tradition of writing down beautiful moments and putting them in a jar.  I also gave out a bunch of jars to people that visited my home during the holidays. When they decided to take a jar I extended an invitation to my farm to share their jars and beautiful moments from the previous year. I am looking forward to our first annual brunch on St. Patrick’s Day!

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Until this week, I had not started a new jar for 2018. I have been writing down moments and putting them in my jammed packed 2017 jar.  While I was at home improvement store the other day I saw lots of jars (I like the jars with lids) and thought I need to start a new jar for this year.  I debated on the medium jar or the large jar.  I went for the large jar.  I thought to myself, as I often do and as I often say to my kids, “GO BIG OR GO HOME.”

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2018 Goodness Jar! BIG GOODNESS.

Once I got the jar home I was so excited to have more room.  I wondered why I was cramming beautiful moments into a too full jar.  I was energized about all of the things that I will put it in this jar over the next 10 months…the endless possibilities for joy, for healing, for connection, for nature…for my life!

Isn’t this like life, before we know it we have it jammed packed and may have run out of room?

What can we clear away to make room for more beauty?

Like the Michelango said, “I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.

What can you carve away in order to discover something new and inspiring?

What you make room for…shows up.

What you carve away…clears the way.

What you look for…you find.

Making room & looking for BIG GOODNESS, Erin

For more TOOLS on creating joy check out Be Amazing: Tools for Living Inspired and Inspired Work: Show UP & Shining Bright.

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How much is YOUR time worth?

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Recently, two special young women in my life had experiences where they busted a move and didn’t wait around.  They valued their time.

One wanted to experience a high school dance.  She didn’t want a date.  She got decked out and looked stunning. She decided to meet a couple of friends there.  She drove herself.  She walked in alone. Now, I don’t know about you but I don’t think I would have done any of this while I was in high school.  I would have wanted/needed to go in with friends, be with a group and wished for a date.  Not this girl.  She is decisive even when not completely confident.

Once she entered the dance and met up with her friends she mingled, walked around and went to the bathroom when things got awkward.  Then she decided she wasn’t having fun.  People were doing things she isn’t interested in.  So while she tried for a bit to have fun, she realized she just wanted to experience the dance and get dressed up. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED. She didn’t need to wait around for it to turn fun. She wasn’t obligated to wait for it be over.

She knew what she wanted, she did it. She went home to her dog and her family.  The things she enjoys.

No wasting time on things that don’t matter and are not desired.

The second young woman, unfortunately, found herself in an unhealthy work environment.  After lots of hardship and inequity she gave her two-week notice.  She trained everyone within the first week.  On that Friday, she realized she had performed her responsibility.  She was also keenly aware the environment was dangerous to her mental health so she sent a professional email stating she would be leaving that day, for good.  She didn’t need to waste a week of her life in a bad situation.

No filling time to just fill time with blind obligation.

Realizing what to stop doing is a strong step in the direction of learning what to start doing.

 Stop waiting for the dance to be over.  Stop waiting for the notice to end.

How can these two examples of action be compared to everyday life?

Stop reading the mediocre novel that you don’t love just because you started it.

Go read something you love.  Read something you want to learn about and that challenges you or completely entertains you.

Is your time worth a mediocre novel?

Stop engaging in conversations that are negative, petty or ill willed just for the sake of trying to be polite.

Be alone over wasteful conversations.  Spend your time with people who are uplifting. Make time with your own thoughts. Get away from these interactions even if it is uncomfortable.

Is your time worth snarky people?

Stop waiting for the fair weather friend to become the friend you want and need.

Go spend time with and give energy to people who have your back.  If don’t have anyone like this in your life, make room for them to enter.

Is your time worth hurtful friendships?

Stop waiting for the big break, the lottery windfall of wealth or the perfect stroke of luck.

Go create a life of joy and excitement.

Is your time worth hoping it away?

Stop waiting for people to do what you want them to do.

Do more of what YOU want to do.

Is your time worth trying to control things you can’t?

Stop wearing the outfit you feel frumpy in because you spent money on it.

Put something on you love and that you feel good in.  Go donate that outfit.

No amount of money is worth frumpy.

Stop saving the glassware and china for special occasions.

Everyday is an occasion.

Stop waiting until you lose the weight, have enough money, find the right person or have the perfect job.

Your moment is now. The perfect time is the time you have now.

This all might sound easier said than done.  True; until you start practicing.  With a few tools you can begin making decisions about your time that will move you in the direction of what you want.  Closer to your dreams and knowing how much your time is worth.

Getting clarity of purpose and practicing courage can equip you to blaze your trail.  Yes, it does take effort and courage to discover and express your true wants.  Sometimes, it feels easier to wait around for whatever because we either don’t know what we want or it is too scary. It’s ok not to know or to be afraid.  It isn’t ok to do nothing about your fear and lack of knowledge.    Check out the tools in Inspired Work for Clarity of Purpose or the tools in Be Amazing for Practicing Courage.   

Purpose and Courage are the cornerstones of learning how to value your time.

Your time is priceless.  You don’t get it back, you can’t buy it and you can’t wish for it.

You can make the most it.  Value it.  Treasure it.

Start practicing.

We are intended to live joyously and abundantly.

Not waiting around, Erin

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What is keeping you awake at night?

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From homemakers to executives, it seems to be the guiding question focused on problems and where to put your energy.

What if we started asking,

What DREAMS are keeping you up at night?

Is your focus on dreams or worries?

Everyone has challenges, adversity, tragedy and sorrow. Everyone.  There is no escaping the human condition.

We can rise above the human condition. We can use it to make us stronger, bolder, braver, more compassionate and hopeful.  The human condition and our suffering can create a head full of worries and a heart full of bleak colors…

OR

We can choose to create a million dreams that are so exciting and audacious that we fill our minds with bright colors. We can have a million dreams keep us awake at night.

I recently saw the movie The Greatest Showman with my daughter.  We loved it!  We were inspired, we were moved by the dynamic music and powerful messages of bravery, inclusion, hope and tenacity even in the face of sorrow, tragedy and judgment.

Here are the lyrics, by Ziv Zaifman, that are staying with me are:

‘Cause every night I lie in bed

The brightest colors fill my head

A million dreams are keeping me awake

What world are you making?

Let’s stop burning up our lives in two week increments between paydays worrying about the bills. Tuck those bills away, pay them peacefully when you can.

Use the time in between to create a mind full of dreams.

Let’s stop telling our sad story over and over again to anyone who will listen.

Start talking about what we want and what we are dreaming about.

No more laying down and recapping everything we should have or could have done. No more self doubt and negative self talk.  Make no room for draining and self deprecating energy.

Fill our minds with possibilities.

When we begin to focus on dreams and possibilities our lives change.

What we focus on we get more of, so when we are filling our minds with bright colors and dreams we will:

Meet positive people

Generate ideas and increase creativity

Pursue dreams we forgot we had or may have never even knew we had

Get adept at following the nudges; using our intuition and power for guidance and good.

It is time to FLIP the SWITCH.

What is keeping you awake at night?

What world are you making?

Not sure where to start?  Your mind is too cluttered, your heart is too sad, you are afraid of disappointment, you’re tired and depleted.  You are not alone.  Everyone feels like this at some point.  It truly takes practice to start thinking about possibilities and commitment to learn how to shift focus to the high energy things.

The Be Amazing Workbook is full of fun activities you can work through to start thinking of yourself and your dreams. If you have people you trust invite them to do it with you.

Put the work in on practicing courage, embracing self consideration and Making It Happen for your life. Make the time to invest in your dreams and a colorful life; not your worries.  Take care of your challenges; then set them aside.

Nurture your dreams with every ounce of energy you have.

Imagine a world and the energy we can create if we fill our minds with dreams.

We are intended to live joyously and abundantly.  Get practicing!  No one can do it for you except you.

Staying Awake with My Dreams, Erin

Inspirational Speaker & Author

Erin is living her dream on her lavender farm, Big Roots and travelling the world sharing message of abundance and joy.  www.erinramsey.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Melting Away

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This past week we have been consumed by ice and snow.

Then Poof!

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Today the white was gone. In one day, a week plus of white is now water flowing fast down the hills creating mini waterfalls and fast moving streams.

I couldn’t help think about how fast things change.  Nature. Our thoughts. Our relationships. Our lives.

Usually people think about life changing fast when a tragedy occurs but we can also think of fast change for what we want and what we hope for.

We can melt away our fear, our self doubt, our regret and our guilt.  It all can flow down the stream if we let it melt. As time passes and seasons change, we can melt.  We can become more tender and loving. We can soften, disarm, be touched and moved.

Don’t wait for the wake up call to start moving in the direction of what you really want.

Tell people how much you love them.

Do the things you dream of.

Treat yourself.

Practice softening towards yourself. Be kind to you.

Disarm the things that no longer serve you.

Do something that makes you nervous and that is hard.

Don’t postpone JOY.

We don’t have to be a ping pong of reactions to what happens.  We can practice being present, savoring what is, feeling what we don’t like, taking time to heal our pain and allowing ourselves to fully embrace our joy.  We can melt away what is holding us back.

Let things come and go. Get in flow.

Disarming and Expecting the Best, Erin

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Natural Habitat: Go Where You Belong

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We got the first big snow since we moved to our farm in Kentucky a year ago.

My neighbor’s dog looked different today.

My neighbor’s dog is half husky and half wolf.  He is usually panting, kind of smells bad, is too bold and doesn’t quite seem comfortable in his own skin.  I often wondered  if it is because we are trying not to encourage him to be at our house since we already have dogs and he has a family or if it is because he just doesn’t know where he belongs.

Then on my morning walk today everything became clear to me.

He was in his element in the snow.  I had never seen him so natural, so comfortable and so happy.

He smiled bigger than ever before.

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He ran with a spring in his step.

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He relaxed in the snow laying down, looking around, smelling…savoring the experience.

He talked to me, he rubbed up against me, he looked at me…we were celebrating together.  He didn’t smell bad and his fur was softer than ever before.

He was being who he is meant to be, a snow dog.  It was inspiring to see him in his element.

This led me to think about us.  Are we spending time in our natural habitat or are we always trying to adapt?  Adapting takes a lot of energy.

What is your natural habitat?

Where are you meant to be?  What is your preferred environment?

Who do you feel good being around?  Where do you feel most accepted?

What kind of clothes make you feel great?

What smells do you enjoy?

What type of room arrangement, lighting and furniture contribute to your comfort?

What type of activities put you in your element?

There will always be times we need to adapt and make adjustments.  These times are less cumbersome and less draining if we provide time and space for ourselves in our natural habitats.   We can deal with difficult people better, we can handle challenges with greater ease and we can be more self aware, responsive and less reactive.

When we are in our element we aren’t looking for approval or acceptance.  We aren’t struggling to be good at what we are doing or working harder than necessary.  We become like my neighbor’s dog this morning.

When we are in our element we are a magnet for joy, inspiration and goodness.  Our natural habitat creates authenticity and abundance.

Define yours. Pay attention.  Take action.  Be who you are meant to be and go where you shine the brightest.  Go where you belong.

To snow dogs and springs in our steps, Erin

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High Regard in 2018

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Be a Giver and Be a Receiver!

So every December and January I give lots of thought about how I want my year to be.

I choose a word, update my vision board, write a picture perfect statement and reflect on the previous year.

In December, I had surgery (everything is fine just hernia) and my husband had surgery (pretty serious on his neck). We are recovering well. We also had company and did our traditional entertaining (scaled back). So I am now just coming out of the fog to really get clarity and energy around 2018.

One thing that keeps coming to my mind is making sure I show up for people. I want to be supportive, acknowledge hardships, grieve together, celebrate together…I want to to be considerate and show high levels of regard for others’ experiences.

I am also going to hold myself and my experiences in high regard. I am investing my time and energy in me and in people who show up for me this year. True and healthy relationships are reciprocal without tit for tat.

Watch how you are spending your time and with whom.

Are you giving and considerate? Are others the same towards you?

Are you caught up in all your own stuff you often overlook or dismiss other people’s stuff?

Write a note, send a text, prepare a special gift, ask questions, offer support, be encouraging, listen and surround yourself with people who will do the same for you.

Be a Giver and Be a Receiver! Just don’t be a taker.

Cheers to high regard in 2018!

Erin

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